In the late 1980's I began a career in television as assistant to a literary agent as well as in television production. After attending the design program at UCLA while my children were in nursery school, I made the transition to a second career, designing interiors. I am the owner of AG Designs and was co-president of my temple when I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2011. I began my journey to wellness during which time I became a blog contributor for the Huffington Post, chronicling my experience and insights.
A couple of people had said "You'll look back on this time in your
life and it will be a blip". It was very comforting to hear but I
thought, this is one hell of a blip!
In the two years it took to write the
book, treatments and medications have improved. It's happening that
fast. As I
point out very early on in my story however, much more needs to be done
sincerely believe that scientists and researchers will continue to make
those improvements, despite what often seems like contradictory information (such as the safety and efficacy of mammograms) and the development of pharmaceuticals, with all sorts of side effects, which we currently have at our disposal. Still, if you read any history of cancer and become familiar with how it was treated way back when, it is easy to be grateful for what we've got now.
Prevention is of the utmost importance of
course. But cancer has existed for a very long time in animals and humans, and unfortunately
real ass-kicker, scientifically speaking.
Listen, none of this was on my radar until I had to deal
with it firsthand. I believe that even if those of us who are not scientists or
doctors talk about it, if we share our stories, we can
learn something. There are many answers and we need to keep asking questions.
I hope that whatever it is you go through in your own life, you find comfort and beauty in unexpected places.
I dedicate my story to all of us who have or will face a terrifying life challenge. As far as I can tell, the challenges do indeed come our way, and we learn from them. I didn't want the "gift" of cancer. Of course not. But it was a real eye opener to say the least.
Grab a few tissues and get ready for some laughs too...
Facing the unknown is scary. I tried to be organized when possible. Below is the note I put on the fridge just before I left for the hospital anticipating at least four days away, before my left breast was removed. Apparently I was still in I-can-control-the-outcome-of-everything mode.
Please work these things out so it all gets done so I can heal and feel good
Here is a list of all of the things I do on a regular basis that will need doing when I cannot:
Usual Stuff Every Single Day:
· Check dog’s water every day - spill out old and refill with new (evenings are fine if easier)
· Wipe crumbs and wipe counter and kitchen table with clean sponge every day
· Put clean dishes away every day
· Do dishes every day
· Wipe refrigerator door if messy from dirty hands
· Empty all garbage cans during week as necessary (approx. 1-2 x per week)
· Chuck - walk dog in the morning (make sure he does #2 if possible)
· Rachel - Walk dog after school no later than 4:00
· Rachel - Check dog food bowl every other day, see if it needs filling – no need to fill to the top, just put in a little
· Bradley - Walk dog in evening, sometime around 8:00 and then again later, or just once in evening
· Give a biscuit now and then to show you care
· Turn off lights when leaving
· Clean up after yourself in the bathroom; this means
o Wipe up excess water on counter top with cloth that is under the sink
o Check the toilet area and wipe with a disinfectant wipe if you created a mess
· Put dirty towels and clothes in washing machine as necessary
· Put clothes in dryer, fold and put away
· Clean up kitchen spills using a wipe or wet sponge – juice leaves surface sticky – do not just wipe with a dry towel
· Clean stove area after cooking as needed
· Write down things needed on paper on top of water cooler.